THE EXEMPLARY ‘AWESOME TWOSOME’!

Who could have guessed
When you began married life
How entwined you'd become
As husband and wife.
After 25 years 
You still say "I Love You"
In many different ways.
May Silver remind you,
You share a special happiness
Life gives to very few.

Yes…This special silver wedding anniversary wish is for none other than my dearest mom and dad who celebrated their 25^th wedding anniversary just one week back on March 2^nd. As planned perfectly, me and my brother gave them a surprise celebration and made them feel honoured and special on that day to the maximum extent we could do it. But, I felt, this celebration, this moment….that they have come to their life means so much beyond than just the blashes and blasts we had on that day….I felt that I should really cherish this couple who have been a role-model for me by leading a wonderful and jubilant matrimonial life. And this post, I whole-heartedly dedicate to this admirable couple whom I have adored a lot in my life.

Rather than going on telling about the life they had or both of their personal traits or blabbering something like that, I wish to share something very sensible and useful for all including me which will be helpful for our lives also. There are innumerable characteristic traits they possess which can portray themselves as the best husband and wife. As far as I have observed them all these 25 years, there are lessons they have taught me in how to carry on a successful marriage life and here are those virtuous qualities like priceless pearls which every couple should practice in their life for a great-going everlasting marriage life.

  

·        The first and the foremost basic thing is MUTUAL ACCEPTANCE AND SATISFACTION of your spouse with your whole heart and soul. Liking and loving your partner for whom or what he/she is very important in living together for the whole life. Only when this basic satisfaction is got with your soul mate, you can move on with the other elements needed to build up your life.

·        This is a common saying that most newly married couples would hear as an elderly advice: “A family that prays together stays together”. Though it may sound absurd for individuals who are atheists, the others must surely stick on to the truth that PRAYER will be a principal element triggering the happiness and joy and peace of your family life together. Only when the two newly wedded ones give their marital life into the Hands of the Almighty with oneness of mind and Spirit, the real peace will hover in their homes.

·        Now, the core part of the wedded life comes which is the sharing of true love. OK, now here comes the confusion….What is trueee love? Yes, instead of simply telling plainly true love, pure love, divine love, etc, its better to say it clearly in terms of practical actions what it really means and how it will be shown in deeds. TRANSPARENCY, FAITHFULNESS, UNDERSTANDING, CONFLICT MANAGEMENT, CARE, AFFECTION, CRISIS MANAGEMENT (financial), HELPFULNESS, UNDIVIDED PROTECTION, TRUST and above all GIVING YOUR FULL LOVE AND SUPPORT to your partner are the exposed deeds of the so-called true love. When these psychological intimacies are perfectly handled between the two, the physical intimacy they have will be a free gift of love life filled with gaiety.

·        RIGHTFUL WAY OF COMMUNICATION between any couples will pave a smooth way for the successful running of the marriage life. Openness with your partner is important because unless you communicate, they can’t know what’s in your mind as he or she is not a mind-reader or a person with extraordinary mind-reading capabilities. And the communication between the two should be sensible with the right tone of voice avoiding the sharing of unnecessary stupid things which will rot a relationship. Tongue-handling in a wise way is very important, especially for women to handle their husbands.

·        Giving FREEDOM for your spouse in every way possible is very significant in the tight bonding of a husband-wife relationship. Pushing hard your own tastes or opinions into your partner’s mind and compelling them to execute it will never work in any progressive way, instead, on the opposite. So, a sense of reasonable amount of freedom and equality should prevail between both partners always as it will increase the freeness and love and trust for each other as years pass on.

·        A main thing to focus on is the AVOIDANCE OF THIRD PERSONS into your love life. Going and sharing your personal family problems or things about your partner to your friends or colleagues at office will gradually serve to be a destroyer of your trust for each other in the bond you have established through marriage. Whatever be the matter, big or small, the best way to solve it is by sitting and talking within two of you and coming out tension free.

·        Finally, in your significant role as a husband or wife in the family, SAY ‘BYE BYE’ TO EGO and that’s it…….! All problems can be handled and ended within the four walls of your room. After all, life is too short to make it complicated! Angers will fly away where there’s too much of love and it’s as simple as that.

So, these are some of the greatest attributes I have noticed in my parents which I feel are the factors that have made them drive joyfully in their 25 years of blissful marriage journey ride. I really salute this Exemplary ‘Awesome Twosome’ and pray and wish them more blessed years of happiness and togetherness forever……………………

 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

 ⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

 ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 

⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 ⁸ LOVE NEVER FAILS.

Experience and get Exalted………..!

We all know that experiences always make us into wise persons in the world which increases the capability of analyzing and making out things very easily. I often hear the saying, “Experience is the best teacher” which, of course, I feel is 100% true in everyone’s life. And when I was pondering over the topic or a matter on which I can write my next blog post, a very special and close person to my heart suggested me to write something about the experiences I had in my life and what I learnt from them…I mean…the three best experiences. Rather than writing about the three best experiences in life, I felt why not to write something related about experiences itself and how they help us grow mentally in this journey of our life.

So, what exactly does the word ‘Experience’ mean? In simple words, we all know it’s just the knowledge that we have gained through practice or by learning certain things. Generally we value people by their experience, be it in any walks of life like work, studies, family or social life, in everything we give priority to experienced persons for carrying out a specific task or for seeking suggestion regarding a problem which requires a solution. Well….now how do we gain this experience or is it just only the good experiences which elevates us or it includes the bad experiences too?

When this question arose in my mind, I had a recap about my life and just thought over how the experiences (good as well as bad) I’ve gained in my life helped me in some way or the other and what are the lessons they’ve taught me in molding myself into a better individual in the family as well as society. Yes……right from the time I started learning A B C till the education I received today MBA………every experience gained through education has been a gift to increase my intellectual knowledge and use it in various different forms for my profession and so it is in each and every different fields of this temporary and adventurous life that we’ve been gifted by God on this earth.

The main domain of experience that has to be taken into account is not the good experiences but of course, the bad experiences, which are in reality the ones which are going to gain you the biggest and greatest wisdom. Yes…..when I was thinking deeply over the positive as well as negative experiences that I had gone through my life so far, and when looking at the present, the greatest achievements that I’ve got in my life are undoubtedly the result of the bad experiences that I had and the lessons that they taught me which helped me to mould myself and to aggrandize the standard of my life.

Yes my friends, the truth I realized recently and I wish to share with all of you is, when we go through bad times in our life, we all hate it and lament whatever we want. But, the bad experiences are the ones which will last for a aphoristic timespan but will surely just elevate you to some great heights with all of its lessons and valuable teaching about what really life is! Just look at any big or great leader or a person who has gained a mountainous fame all over the world……… all their life before that would be a real mess with a collection of innumerable bad trials and tribulations. All I wanted to declare through this post of mine is that, whatever you go through your life, everything is going to take you somewhere God already planned for a great future for you, because you are born for and with a purpose. And here especially I wanted to stress on the fact about the so-called ‘bad’ experiences in life for which you get depressed and start rebuking God, that they are actually the real elevators of your life. So, my final word is simply, “Experience and get exalted!!!” J

"If you will call your troubles experiences, and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you, you will grow vigorous and happy, however adverse your circumstances seem to be."

2011 - A MIRACULOUS YEAR FOR ME :) :) :D

Waaaaaa....Finally am so thankful and grateful to God as He has been with me throughout this year and brought me here till the end with his abounding Grace and Mercy. One more day to survive in this year 2011 and get into the awaiting beautiful new year 2012 and I wonder what all gifts God has wrapped inside His arms to present me in the coming year too...... :)

Last year I remember the same time I have written a post about the miserable year 2010 for me and about how am entering into this year 2011 with so many hopes and wishes. And today am gonna share with all of you about what I feel about this year 2011....To start with simple words, my entire idea and gist of this year can be summed up just with a single word 'MIRACLE'...Yes my friends, it was a wholesome package of 365-days miracle..............

I started this year with prayers and praises in God's presence. And God gave me a wonderful promise this year from 2Corinthians 9:8 which says that,

"And God can give you MORE BLESSINGS THAN YOU NEED. Then you will always have plenty of everything - enough to give to every good work."

And when I received this promise, I started the year with great confidence and faith which, today has driven me somewhere great that I'm sitting now with a smile typing all these words with immense gratefulness to my Creator. 

In whatever phase of my life you take, be it educational or professional or personal or spiritual, God has blessed me in each and every domain of my life more than I expected or anybody else in this world anticipated. There were of course times when I had to face trials which drove me to a state of fear and depression. But, amidst all those storms, His mighty Hand was with me which strengthened me and raised me up softly to great heights. He was telling me,

"I am the Lord your God, who holds your right hand, and I tell you, "Don't be afraid. I will help you" (Isaiah 41:13)

which made me strong and able to do everything by His might and accomplish great things this year everywhere and in everything. 

To quote all verses He gave me and to specifically say all the miracles and blessings that He bestowed on me, this one post is insufficient and so I just wanna share to you a simple message or lesson that I learnt this year which will be surely useful for you too. Dear reader, life is not same all the time. There will be ups and downs, good as well as bad times. But during all times, don't ever lose your hope because of your situation or the people's discouraging words. Be of good courage and always put your trust and faith in God praising Him and honoring Him for everything and in all times. It will be be difficult of course, but try to practise this and then you'll start experiencing peace and miracles in your life. 

"It was good for me to suffer so I would learn your demands." Psalm 119:71

Remember always that If God is with us, nobody can defeat us.....Have a wonderful year ahead!
WISH YOU ALL A VERY HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR.....GOD BLESS YOU ALL! 

The longggggggg Journey where Blogging has taken me............

Its been almost more than a year that I started blogging which I came to know today seeing my first post which was on September 3rd, 2010. Its amazing that I've written almost 38 posts within a year, that too, each and every posts depicting some kind of intuition which arose within me. But, what I was thinking today was what made me suddenly to come into this blogging activity and am just gonna share with all of you how far this blogging has taken me into my life...............................

Basically, am a technologist and neither a poetess nor an English literature student to come into writing. But, the truth is that I always had that burning passion for writing as I had a good mastery over the language and got that expressive kind of character which is very much essential for an impressive writing. The fact is that I didn't get the time or opportunity to sit and share my thoughts with everyone through writing. It was last year that unexpectedly I got the opportunity or to say it more precisely, got the circumstance which led me to start writing a personal blog of mine. I was almost pushed to the situation of being at home for some time and a very best friend of me who knows very well about my caliber and God-gifted talents motivated me to start writing a blog as a result of which I started just like that playfully to pass my time.

 But to my surprise, this pleasurable pastime activity has taken me somewhere now to the extent of having writing as my part-time career yielding money for me. Yes, in a nutshell, there were many people who went through my blog and appreciated and encouraged me a lot. Furthermore, I also got a job as a content writer in a company which added more fertilizer for the growth of my talent. I started shining wherever I went because of my writing skills where people urged me to write some content for their business or organization or for many other purposes. And even further, now I've started earning on my own because of my writing skills which have almost now totally transformed my career of a software profession into a full-time web content entrepreneur.

And now its time for me to thank all those who adored me, motivated me and who were by my side to support me in all that I did which is the main reason for my present status today. Above all, I thank God that finally He executed His plan for my life so beautifully and surprisingly. Because a person like me who’s in a totally different career coming into this stream is something very odd and absurd but which can happen only for a genuine reason like God’s will.

Philippians 2:13 “It is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.” (NIV)

There is no problem too Big GOD cannot solve it!!!

Hi folks...Today I've got to share something which touched my heart very very muchhhhhhh.......which kindled all of my heart, mind and soul completely.... and am also sure that if you're a person who's going through extreme depression and frustration right now, you will surely be consoled and comforted once you finished reading this post of mine.....

Hope you'd have watched the video which is above as the whole matter that I'm gonna say is related to the same.

It was a couple of months back that this happening took place. 

On July 24th, 2011 (it was my mamma's birthday actually), Sunday........So I was about to go to church in the morning with a very heavy, burdened and stressed heart...unable to share my sorrow and grief with anybody else......and at the same time carrying a fake plastic smile on my face completely for the sake of my parents..... and I'm telling you...TRULY...nobody else knows how much anguished I was, expect me and the Almighty!

The church service began and of course, I wasn't able to even sing songs during the worship session. I felt that my distress and mental agony were entirely coating my throat restricting me from singing praises to my CREATOR. So, as a whole, even if I think now of how my condition was, I was simply just a living being who's a closed stack of unexposed and unexpressed worriesssssssssssssss!

And then the time of sermon came when the pastor gave a start by mentioning the title of the message as "REST FOR THE STRESSED!" On hearing the title, I was filled with sudden wonder as I felt that it was exactly suiting my status quo. With the key verses of Matthew 11:28-30 from the Bible, it was such a wonderful message which was soothing and consoling that I was just thinking "How faithful my God is! He has given exactly the word I should hear" feeling that God is straightaway speaking to me. 

And the moment which touched me exactly was when the Pastor concluded his message and started singing this song in a very comforting and reassuring tone which turned me soooo emotional. When I heard the lines 

"If HE carried the weight of the world upon His shoulders

I know my sister that HE (Lord) will carry you"

I was all tears...Yes....my grief-stricken heart wasn't able to control itself after listening to these lyrics. But then I became clear that there is a living God who's there to take care of me and all my burdens and I no need to worry anymore. 

So, my dear friends, whoever is reading this, am assuring you..........Whatever you're going through right now, its just temporary for sure! "THIS TOO SHALL PASS AWAY" Just always trust that when you cast all your burdens upon Him, you can freely rest in peace and joy because its He who created you and gave you life with a purpose and plan which will get executed beautifully once you handle everything over to him.

God Bless You! :-)

Liking the 'Like' button in facebook :-) :P

        As we all know, its very evident from the high degree of the usage of social networking sites like Facebook, twitter, etc that we are living in the age of social media (which has both pros and cons of its own). Whatever be its disadvantages, still people from the age of tens to sixties are crazy about using social networking. I even know an eight-year old relative of mine who has an fb account, tat too which is active enough in usage! And amongst all these kinds of social media sites, Facebook is the topmost ranked and used site by people all over the globe.....

               
And you know, am also a very very energetic, dynamic and occupied user of all these sites :D But this Facebook is the one which I love the most than all the others because of one cracking feature....which is none other than the 'LIKE' button in Facebook! Yes...this is an amazing attribute of fb which has made it so popular sweeping it across the world. With a simple and compact 'like' button, we all have fallen in love with Facebook, I suppose ;-)! Rather than saying all others, I'd say that I personally have an unique affinity towards the 'like' in fb....Even though it may seem so naive and silly, there's a lot more good things to say about this like button.

       Starting from the liking of statuses, posts, photos, links, pages, etc etc.........the list goes on and on that even without our knowledge, we come to know how many things we like in this world. There are lot more things that we cherish and admire on this universe than we dislike, murmur or hate. Just imagine all these without a 'like' button.....we would have just seen and gone away...But, this 'like' button gives us a realization about our admiring capacity as well giving some joy for another person by letting them know that we like their photo or post or whatever petty they have it in their profile.You know just when I click the notifications tab and find a msg like " so and so likes you photo", "x likes your post", it would be like a one-second flash of bliss as if I've done something great and achieved! Yes, truly, this magical button has a psychological impact on us, I guess!

                                               

                   Its after using this 'like' button in Facebook is that I started to realize how many things are there in this world to admire, glorify and when there are so many things that are good to see and appreciate, why do we always stick to the negative ones and unwanted ones? Doesn't this seem to be a little sensible? However, I like the 'like' in Facebook...Wat abt uuuu????? :-) :-) (My height of liking for the like : Even I have a 'like' button in my blog, if you liked my blog, please 'like' it :P)

Photography - An initiator of nostalgia that makes differences within a second.....

                     
                                                           Today I've come up to share something which stroke in my mind just in a flash of a second. AW..yeah...the word 'flash' tells all about it....its none other than the magical wand 'camera' which, by its instant flash captures anything which is focused. I have a huge collection of all my pictures right from my babyhood days till to-date which, when sometimes viewed, initiates a lot of reactions and emotions within my inner self.
                      Now i remember a quote which i read somewhere : "A photo is something which never changes forever even though the people in it change". This quote made me go into a deep thought....Ain't this sooo true? Even I too, sometimes when i look through the old snaps feel how things have changed so much, life changes, the people's changes, changes in our physical appearances, that this and so much more....just within a single glance of a picture. To say it more aptly, everything, both internal as well as external attributes of the elements in the pictures would have changed...tats wat i would say!
                    This photography is the only thing which makes us go into a state of 'nostalgia' within no time. I personally love this amazing constituent which stimulates our nostalgic feeling to a very great extent. Its the only record or proof of certain things that happened in our lives, which we can't get back but can go into that particular scenario and feel it just with a gaze on the picture. It can even refresh our feelings once we have a look at certain albums because even if we hold some grudges on certain persons, when taking a view of the picture in which how close we were to that same person, it will completely erase the grievance that we had on that person just at that instant itself. (this is my personal experience). So, isn't photography such a beautiful thing which can soothe our minds and rejuvenate our souls?
                      So, I wrote this post just to say that i really love capturing pictures and keeping it safe because it is the only entity that can bring our cherished, lost and yearning memories very close to our mind and makes us realize the truth that "CHANGE IS THE ONLY THING THAT NEVER CHANGES!"