Who could have guessed
When you began married life
How entwined you'd become
As husband and wife.
After 25 years
You still say "I Love You"
In many different ways.
May Silver remind you,
You share a special happiness
Life gives to very few.
When you began married life
How entwined you'd become
As husband and wife.
After 25 years
You still say "I Love You"
In many different ways.
May Silver remind you,
You share a special happiness
Life gives to very few.
Yes…This special silver wedding anniversary wish is for none other than my dearest mom and dad who celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary just one week back on March 2nd. As planned perfectly, me and my brother gave them a surprise celebration and made them feel honoured and special on that day to the maximum extent we could do it. But, I felt, this celebration, this moment….that they have come to their life means so much beyond than just the blashes and blasts we had on that day….I felt that I should really cherish this couple who have been a role-model for me by leading a wonderful and jubilant matrimonial life. And this post, I whole-heartedly dedicate to this admirable couple whom I have adored a lot in my life.
Rather than going on telling about the life they had or both of their personal traits or blabbering something like that, I wish to share something very sensible and useful for all including me which will be helpful for our lives also. There are innumerable characteristic traits they possess which can portray themselves as the best husband and wife. As far as I have observed them all these 25 years, there are lessons they have taught me in how to carry on a successful marriage life and here are those virtuous qualities like priceless pearls which every couple should practice in their life for a great-going everlasting marriage life.
· The first and the foremost basic thing is MUTUAL ACCEPTANCE AND SATISFACTION of your spouse with your whole heart and soul. Liking and loving your partner for whom or what he/she is very important in living together for the whole life. Only when this basic satisfaction is got with your soul mate, you can move on with the other elements needed to build up your life.
· This is a common saying that most newly married couples would hear as an elderly advice: “A family that prays together stays together”. Though it may sound absurd for individuals who are atheists, the others must surely stick on to the truth that PRAYER will be a principal element triggering the happiness and joy and peace of your family life together. Only when the two newly wedded ones give their marital life into the Hands of the Almighty with oneness of mind and Spirit, the real peace will hover in their homes.
· Now, the core part of the wedded life comes which is the sharing of true love. OK, now here comes the confusion….What is trueee love? Yes, instead of simply telling plainly true love, pure love, divine love, etc, its better to say it clearly in terms of practical actions what it really means and how it will be shown in deeds. TRANSPARENCY, FAITHFULNESS, UNDERSTANDING, CONFLICT MANAGEMENT, CARE, AFFECTION, CRISIS MANAGEMENT (financial), HELPFULNESS, UNDIVIDED PROTECTION, TRUST and above all GIVING YOUR FULL LOVE AND SUPPORT to your partner are the exposed deeds of the so-called true love. When these psychological intimacies are perfectly handled between the two, the physical intimacy they have will be a free gift of love life filled with gaiety.
· RIGHTFUL WAY OF COMMUNICATION between any couples will pave a smooth way for the successful running of the marriage life. Openness with your partner is important because unless you communicate, they can’t know what’s in your mind as he or she is not a mind-reader or a person with extraordinary mind-reading capabilities. And the communication between the two should be sensible with the right tone of voice avoiding the sharing of unnecessary stupid things which will rot a relationship. Tongue-handling in a wise way is very important, especially for women to handle their husbands.
· Giving FREEDOM for your spouse in every way possible is very significant in the tight bonding of a husband-wife relationship. Pushing hard your own tastes or opinions into your partner’s mind and compelling them to execute it will never work in any progressive way, instead, on the opposite. So, a sense of reasonable amount of freedom and equality should prevail between both partners always as it will increase the freeness and love and trust for each other as years pass on.
· A main thing to focus on is the AVOIDANCE OF THIRD PERSONS into your love life. Going and sharing your personal family problems or things about your partner to your friends or colleagues at office will gradually serve to be a destroyer of your trust for each other in the bond you have established through marriage. Whatever be the matter, big or small, the best way to solve it is by sitting and talking within two of you and coming out tension free.
· Finally, in your significant role as a husband or wife in the family, SAY ‘BYE BYE’ TO EGO and that’s it…….! All problems can be handled and ended within the four walls of your room. After all, life is too short to make it complicated! Angers
So, these are some of the greatest attributes I have noticed in my parents which I feel are the factors that have made them drive joyfully in their 25 years of blissful marriage journey ride. I really salute this Exemplary ‘Awesome Twosome’ and pray and wish them more blessed years of happiness and togetherness forever……………………
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 LOVE NEVER FAILS.
