TRUST – On WHOM is BETTER?????

Today I got an urge to share about my favorite verse from the Bible which is also deemed to be the central verse of the living Holy Book (Bible). Straight away stating the word of God, it says,

It is BETTER to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man.”(Psalm 118:8)

I have experienced the faultless truth in this verse many many times in my life. As a matter of fact, many take the internal reality of truth present in this word of God in a wrong way. They think that one has to put his or her trust only in God and not believe any human in this world thus isolating them or looking at all around them in a doubtful manner. This is an utter mistake!!!!! In this scripture reference, Psalmist doesn’t at all mean in this way.  

Then what does it mean? If you look deep into the intricate meaning depicted through this verse of just 14 words, it simply gives an answer for the question, “On whom is it better to put your trust? Whom can you rely on for your future? For your guidance? For a blessed life? Etc etc….. For all these questions, the best answer is that it is better to trust in the Lord than to put your confidence in mortal man. 

You may ask “why? Why? I have wonderful friends, relatives, parents, siblings, well-wishers and the like who will assist me in all paths of my life; on whom I can place my full trust for they think for my goodness”. But I answer “Why not?” Just turn back into your life…Rewind it once and see how many times have you been ditched by man (whoever it may be) at hard times? At times when you really needed their help?” Didn’t you get even one incident as such? Yes…that’s what I mean to say…It is always BETTER…this word’s meaning can be taken in numerous ways like wiser, good, that is, the best choice to go for placing your trust is God and not man.

Mortal man and this earthly world are always changing and not constant. There is always a famous saying we say “Change is the only thing that doesn’t change on earth.” Yes….so which is better to put your trust and hopes? In Changing human community or THE UNCHANGING LIVING GOD? Most of the times we put our hopes on the creatures rather than their Creator? Don’t we? 

And the impact of putting our confidence in God rather than man will be nothing but ETERNAL BLESSINGS. May be we won’t be able to taste the fruitful blessings soon, but, when we wait upon the Lord in everything, surely we’ll get the sumptuous bounty which will be worth the wait.
 
 I went through the following Scripture references in connection with Psalm 118:8.

• Blessed is the man who makes the Lord his trust, who does not turn to the proud, to those who go astray after a lie! (Psalm 40:4) 
• Thus says the Lord: “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord. He is like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see any good come. He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land. “Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. (Jeremiah 17:5-7)
• Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms; for the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house. But as for me, I will look to the Lord; I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me. (Micah 7:5-7)
• Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us. Selah Those of low estate are but a breath; those of high estate are a delusion; in the balances they go up; they are together lighter than a breath. (Psalm 62:8-9)

So, dear reader, now it’s your chance to decide on whom to put your trust.

This song is a sweet song which always makes me relish my Creator’s character and once I sang this song for leading the worship in my Church which turned out to be a great outpour of blessing. Enjoy and be blessed folks!!!!!

  

THE EXEMPLARY ‘AWESOME TWOSOME’!

Who could have guessed
When you began married life
How entwined you'd become
As husband and wife.
After 25 years 
You still say "I Love You"
In many different ways.
May Silver remind you,
You share a special happiness
Life gives to very few.

Yes…This special silver wedding anniversary wish is for none other than my dearest mom and dad who celebrated their 25^th wedding anniversary just one week back on March 2^nd. As planned perfectly, me and my brother gave them a surprise celebration and made them feel honoured and special on that day to the maximum extent we could do it. But, I felt, this celebration, this moment….that they have come to their life means so much beyond than just the blashes and blasts we had on that day….I felt that I should really cherish this couple who have been a role-model for me by leading a wonderful and jubilant matrimonial life. And this post, I whole-heartedly dedicate to this admirable couple whom I have adored a lot in my life.

Rather than going on telling about the life they had or both of their personal traits or blabbering something like that, I wish to share something very sensible and useful for all including me which will be helpful for our lives also. There are innumerable characteristic traits they possess which can portray themselves as the best husband and wife. As far as I have observed them all these 25 years, there are lessons they have taught me in how to carry on a successful marriage life and here are those virtuous qualities like priceless pearls which every couple should practice in their life for a great-going everlasting marriage life.

  

·        The first and the foremost basic thing is MUTUAL ACCEPTANCE AND SATISFACTION of your spouse with your whole heart and soul. Liking and loving your partner for whom or what he/she is very important in living together for the whole life. Only when this basic satisfaction is got with your soul mate, you can move on with the other elements needed to build up your life.

·        This is a common saying that most newly married couples would hear as an elderly advice: “A family that prays together stays together”. Though it may sound absurd for individuals who are atheists, the others must surely stick on to the truth that PRAYER will be a principal element triggering the happiness and joy and peace of your family life together. Only when the two newly wedded ones give their marital life into the Hands of the Almighty with oneness of mind and Spirit, the real peace will hover in their homes.

·        Now, the core part of the wedded life comes which is the sharing of true love. OK, now here comes the confusion….What is trueee love? Yes, instead of simply telling plainly true love, pure love, divine love, etc, its better to say it clearly in terms of practical actions what it really means and how it will be shown in deeds. TRANSPARENCY, FAITHFULNESS, UNDERSTANDING, CONFLICT MANAGEMENT, CARE, AFFECTION, CRISIS MANAGEMENT (financial), HELPFULNESS, UNDIVIDED PROTECTION, TRUST and above all GIVING YOUR FULL LOVE AND SUPPORT to your partner are the exposed deeds of the so-called true love. When these psychological intimacies are perfectly handled between the two, the physical intimacy they have will be a free gift of love life filled with gaiety.

·        RIGHTFUL WAY OF COMMUNICATION between any couples will pave a smooth way for the successful running of the marriage life. Openness with your partner is important because unless you communicate, they can’t know what’s in your mind as he or she is not a mind-reader or a person with extraordinary mind-reading capabilities. And the communication between the two should be sensible with the right tone of voice avoiding the sharing of unnecessary stupid things which will rot a relationship. Tongue-handling in a wise way is very important, especially for women to handle their husbands.

·        Giving FREEDOM for your spouse in every way possible is very significant in the tight bonding of a husband-wife relationship. Pushing hard your own tastes or opinions into your partner’s mind and compelling them to execute it will never work in any progressive way, instead, on the opposite. So, a sense of reasonable amount of freedom and equality should prevail between both partners always as it will increase the freeness and love and trust for each other as years pass on.

·        A main thing to focus on is the AVOIDANCE OF THIRD PERSONS into your love life. Going and sharing your personal family problems or things about your partner to your friends or colleagues at office will gradually serve to be a destroyer of your trust for each other in the bond you have established through marriage. Whatever be the matter, big or small, the best way to solve it is by sitting and talking within two of you and coming out tension free.

·        Finally, in your significant role as a husband or wife in the family, SAY ‘BYE BYE’ TO EGO and that’s it…….! All problems can be handled and ended within the four walls of your room. After all, life is too short to make it complicated! Angers will fly away where there’s too much of love and it’s as simple as that.

So, these are some of the greatest attributes I have noticed in my parents which I feel are the factors that have made them drive joyfully in their 25 years of blissful marriage journey ride. I really salute this Exemplary ‘Awesome Twosome’ and pray and wish them more blessed years of happiness and togetherness forever……………………

 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

 ⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

 ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 

⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 ⁸ LOVE NEVER FAILS.

Experience and get Exalted………..!

We all know that experiences always make us into wise persons in the world which increases the capability of analyzing and making out things very easily. I often hear the saying, “Experience is the best teacher” which, of course, I feel is 100% true in everyone’s life. And when I was pondering over the topic or a matter on which I can write my next blog post, a very special and close person to my heart suggested me to write something about the experiences I had in my life and what I learnt from them…I mean…the three best experiences. Rather than writing about the three best experiences in life, I felt why not to write something related about experiences itself and how they help us grow mentally in this journey of our life.

So, what exactly does the word ‘Experience’ mean? In simple words, we all know it’s just the knowledge that we have gained through practice or by learning certain things. Generally we value people by their experience, be it in any walks of life like work, studies, family or social life, in everything we give priority to experienced persons for carrying out a specific task or for seeking suggestion regarding a problem which requires a solution. Well….now how do we gain this experience or is it just only the good experiences which elevates us or it includes the bad experiences too?

When this question arose in my mind, I had a recap about my life and just thought over how the experiences (good as well as bad) I’ve gained in my life helped me in some way or the other and what are the lessons they’ve taught me in molding myself into a better individual in the family as well as society. Yes……right from the time I started learning A B C till the education I received today MBA………every experience gained through education has been a gift to increase my intellectual knowledge and use it in various different forms for my profession and so it is in each and every different fields of this temporary and adventurous life that we’ve been gifted by God on this earth.

The main domain of experience that has to be taken into account is not the good experiences but of course, the bad experiences, which are in reality the ones which are going to gain you the biggest and greatest wisdom. Yes…..when I was thinking deeply over the positive as well as negative experiences that I had gone through my life so far, and when looking at the present, the greatest achievements that I’ve got in my life are undoubtedly the result of the bad experiences that I had and the lessons that they taught me which helped me to mould myself and to aggrandize the standard of my life.

Yes my friends, the truth I realized recently and I wish to share with all of you is, when we go through bad times in our life, we all hate it and lament whatever we want. But, the bad experiences are the ones which will last for a aphoristic timespan but will surely just elevate you to some great heights with all of its lessons and valuable teaching about what really life is! Just look at any big or great leader or a person who has gained a mountainous fame all over the world……… all their life before that would be a real mess with a collection of innumerable bad trials and tribulations. All I wanted to declare through this post of mine is that, whatever you go through your life, everything is going to take you somewhere God already planned for a great future for you, because you are born for and with a purpose. And here especially I wanted to stress on the fact about the so-called ‘bad’ experiences in life for which you get depressed and start rebuking God, that they are actually the real elevators of your life. So, my final word is simply, “Experience and get exalted!!!” J

"If you will call your troubles experiences, and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you, you will grow vigorous and happy, however adverse your circumstances seem to be."